Such a powerful post! The freeze/fawn response is real.....I had thought this was not something I did until I spent a fair amount of time in retrospection after a minor, "trivial" incident. I had felt so much frustration from when I saw it happening to others I cared about. And here, it happened to me and I couldn't see it until I DID see it.
Insidious.
It's a safety response that robs us.....here is to practicing no with smaller, "safe" situations so we can decondition ourselves and conscientiously award our consent....or not.
YES! OMG insidious is the perfect word. It's hard to catch and it often doesn't get caught until after the incident but with time we can catch and respond faster and faster!
Such a powerful post! The freeze/fawn response is real.....I had thought this was not something I did until I spent a fair amount of time in retrospection after a minor, "trivial" incident. I had felt so much frustration from when I saw it happening to others I cared about. And here, it happened to me and I couldn't see it until I DID see it.
Insidious.
It's a safety response that robs us.....here is to practicing no with smaller, "safe" situations so we can decondition ourselves and conscientiously award our consent....or not.
YES! OMG insidious is the perfect word. It's hard to catch and it often doesn't get caught until after the incident but with time we can catch and respond faster and faster!