You Are Not a Victim of Circumstances: 5 Ways to Move Away From Powerlessness!
Things that taught me victim-thinking:
Your birth was horrible, and it was the cruel doctor’s fault.
Because of your traumatic birth, the University IQ testers said you’d be a genius except for blah-blah-blah.
Because we’re poor, we’re doomed to illness; only rich people can buy healthy food and be thin.
Because of tetracycline, your teeth enamel is forever fucked off.
Because of a family curse, we’ll never get ahead.
You can’t do X, so move, and I’ll do it. [This still happens today when people see me struggle and take over rather than teach - it’s on me to stand up in those moments!]
This isn’t even the tip of the iceberg of edicts handed down, training me (us) to spend more time looking for the reason things are in the shitter rather than what we can do with what we have.
We were taught to see ourselves as powerless.
We were taught to give up when things get difficult.
We were taught to collapse when life life’s us.
We were told that XYZ was someone else's fault.
We learned the blame game (the most disempowering game on earth) from our parents and peers.
It's the government's fault - his fault - her fault - their fault.
This creates an "I can't because..." worldview.
This creates people who cannot solve problems because they spend time looking for fault rather than freedom.
I can’t because of allergies, chronic pain, fatigue, pets, parents, children, work, economy, war, this diagnosis. We all do it and we can all stop.
The world is calling for us to step into our POWER, even at these very subtle levels.
Unlearn these patterns as fast as possible by not looking out there and focusing inside instead.
Yes, circumstances can be hella shitty, we do need to name and acknowledge them, AND we don't have to give our power away to them.
Try going through the day listening for the disempowered thoughts. Then try one or all of these:
What one action can I take to solve this roadblock?
What would 5 minutes of attention to the task I'm avoiding do for me?
What if I moved my body by dancing for 1 song?
Make a Mind Map with the problem in the center and at least 15 options for solving it - even the scandalous options you'd never actually do!
Give yourself 5 minutes to write out all the awfulness - whine - moan - cry - and then 10 minutes to write out all the wonderful.
Bonus: Where have I given my power away to XYZ? Would I like to take it back now?
When we stop saying "I can't because...," we set ourselves free.
XO,
LMW
Bam! Gonna dance and mindmap BOTH today, ta to you 😁