1 Damaging Falsehood That is Keeping You Stuck
At a minimum we can stop beating ourselves up over it
How many times have you tried to change a behavior, engaged in it, and then beaten yourself up?
How much time and money have you spent trying to find a cure for self-sabotage?
You can stop doing that now.
Self-sabotage is a construct created to make sure you never understand that being in a human body means being cyclical and to reinforce staying disconnected from Nature.
Self-sabotage is a fiction created to reinforce a sense of inadequacy to keep you disempowered and consuming more products and services to fix yourself.
Self-sabotage is your Safety-Seeking Self pushing you back to your Familiar Bad Feeling Place.
With a daily practice designed to help you stay awake and aware, change is so much easier. Without it, we slip again and again into the exact behavior we're trying to end, and this is how it goes...
1. Slip up; don't catch it until much later.
2. Slip up; catch it sooner.
3. Slip up and immediately catch it.
4. Slip up and stay aware as it's happening.
5. A moment of awareness before the choice is made - but we still choose to slip up and then make excuses for why (so we don't have to feel shitty.)
6. A longer moment of awareness, and this is where the internal push-pull gets LOUD, but we still choose to slip up.
7. The urge arises; we meet it with compassionate curiosity, address the true NEED, and there's no slip-up.
So, how do you get to #7?
By living a ton of numbers 1-6.
By making a determination to stay awake - fully and kindly honest with ourselves.
By committing to a daily or hourly check-in: Where are my thoughts? What am I allowing to be present in my energy? Where am I focusing?
By understanding, there are forces at play who'd prefer that you keep kicking yourself down when you're naturally meant to rise up.
By understanding it's only self-sabotage when you are trying to hold yourself to an artificial standard of perfection that is, again, externally imposed on us.
By asking what scared you that triggered the Safety-Seeking Self in the first place - who then "made" you spend or eat or smoke or drink, etc.?
By understanding that you are meant to play with challenge, to freely experiment and find what works and what doesn’t for your process of change.
Do you see?
There's so much more to this; my group, Train Your Body to Wealth, will explore it in August. It's related to money, of course, but you can apply this to anything!
Staying conscious in a world that prefers sleepwalkers is hard, but the rewards are well worth the struggle!
XO,
LMW