Micro-decisions Create Your Reality
What subtle things are happening all day long that form your life?
What the hell do you choose when bad feels good?
When you live in awareness, you quickly catch it when you start to fall into your Familiar Bad Feeling Place. And then you're standing at the crossroads.
Choice #1: Will you sink into that state?
Choice #2: Will you choose a state that serves you better?
And let's be clear: choice #2 in the beginning is NOT the preferred state.
Your preferred state is familiar and comfortable even though it doesn't serve you anymore. Your system has a deeply worn rut that it likes to wallow around in like a pig in a mud pit.
It's uncomfortable to be in a state that serves you better until you've practiced it so often that contentment feels preferable to chaos.
It can be hard to admit we're choosing to engage in victim-thinking and throwing self-pity parties. Still, when we DO admit it, we begin to step into living consciously and drawing to us experiences and conditions that feel really wonderful.
So what to do?
1. Get honest - hear the stories you are telling yourself - notice how you are assigning motivation to someone's actions or behaviors when really you don't know why anyone acts the way they do unless you ask them - notice how your view of a situation may not be the truth and likely is colored by conditioned responses aka knee-jerk reactions.
2. Feel what needs to be felt! What lives under your FBFP? What needs to be embraced? Seen? Accepted? Notice any resistance to really feeling the feels in your body.
3. Use a nervous system tool to release and reset. Box breathing, orienting to your environment, writing a new ending, tapping, inhaling deeply and making your exhale twice as long, etc.
4. Decide where you'd like to become comfortable. What feeling would you like more of? Does anyone remember these:
Core Desired Feelings?
Sanaya Roman’s - focus on the essence of what you want.
Abraham-Hicks - try to reach for the next step up in the Emotional Scale.
Emotional anchors?
Recall a memory and use it like a touchstone to activate that feeling.
Notice resistance to doing this - notice that part of you doesn't WANT to feel uplifted and joyful. Accept that and stay focused on the uplifting memories of family you love or, oh, I don’t know, eating a fresh baguette sitting by the Seine :-).
Can’t access a positive memory? Perfectly normal because when your brain train is running full steam ahead to Pity Party Land, you literally can’t access a new track. So repeat steps 2 and 3 then watch a movie or read something that can activate an uplifted emotion.
When you’ve activated your uplifted state, don’t try to force yourself to stay there. Simply enjoy it for as long as you can, knowing that it will fade and be replaced by something else, which will fade and be replaced by something else yet again.
5. Set an alarm. 4 times a day, I get a reminder to reset and choose what I want to feel. I get an audio poke in the ribs to check in on what I am allowing to go on in my head. What stories am I telling? Am I in the past or in the future? What truth do I need to speak to myself or others, and what choice do I want to make now?
True power is found in these choices. The micro decisions we make all day every day to fall down or stand up or, better said, to stand up quickly when we fall down, or even better yet - notice you are falling and right yourself!
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XO,
LMW
One whose happiness is within, who is active and rejoices within, and whose aim is inward is actually the perfect mystic. He is liberated in the Supreme, and ultimately he attains the Supreme.
Bhagavad-gita 5.24