You’re not meant to be in healing mode forever, and our nervous systems actually bounce back faster than we think.
With diligent daily application of tools, we change how our bodies respond to stress and build vagal tone; life does get easier to roll with.
We are able to leave behind the fear of emotions because we’ve taken the time to heal trauma. We’re able to stay present with the sensations of emotional energy running through our bodies. We can breathe WITH those sensations no longer breathing in the hopes of making it all go away faster.
Same = Safe. Different = Deadly. We understand those equations as just the way our brains work, so we no longer let them stop us when we want to grow and make changes in our lives.
We can be uncomfortable when it arises and even seek it out to challenge ourselves. We’ve built confidence in our skills to stay awake in our lives and roll with the everyday oceanic waves of emotional energy.
A life of simply feeling feelings looks like this:
having an argument that leads to constructive conversations and growth
getting an unexpected bill, immediately taking a few deep breaths, and handling it
increasing income and feeling the stretch of it without going unconscious and spending back down to normal
consciously looking at life and choosing to expand and grow rather than letting pain increase until we’re forced to act
looking at our numbers regularly without struggle or complaining
paying taxes on timeinvesting in the help we need to grow our business - no longer actually wasting more money by being “cheap”
taking action on new projects, knowing those come with discomfort, and staying present with them every step of the way
Life doesn’t stop. There will never be a day that you feel nothing. Always happy does not exist and never will, but acceptance can be yours with one decision - to feel.
Once healed, fear can be present, grief can be a companion, anger can fire up, and tears can fall without obstruction, toxic positivity, or mental angst. No more drama, no more confusion, simply - confident presence with what each moment brings.
Keep going, honey bunnies. Your work will absolutely pay off!