Have To versus I Deserve To
If no one loved you enough to provide financial safety you deserve to give it to yourself immediately
This isn’t blaming caregivers, and the truth is many of us were not taught how to prioritize the things we need for a beautiful life.
We don’t have to exercise, but we deserve the kind of life that can be led with a strong and flexible body.
We don’t have to vacuum the floor or do the dishes or declutter, but we deserve the peace of mind that comes from those actions.
We don’t have to do the tasks required to market our business, but our knowledge deserves to be shared, and people who benefit from our knowledge deserve to receive it. [and we also deserve fair financial compensation for that sharing since our world still runs on dolla dolla bills y’all]
We don’t have to face our finances, but we deserve the sense of safety that becoming aware of and working with our resources brings.
I’m worth the extra effort. You are worth the extra effort.
When I don’t want to do something, I remind myself I deserve the results that come from taking the loving actions of ABC. I deserve to experience the love I can generate for myself by providing now what wasn’t provided then.
The parts of us that want to wallow and whine deserve to be heard.
The parts that want to ruin everything we’re trying to achieve deserve warm cookies and milk.
The parts who are thrilled to see money draining out of the bank account deserve to be given a shiny gold star for what a good job they’ve done of keeping us safe in our Familiar Bad Feeling Place.
Baby step it. If you can do that flipping fetus step it.
Walk one circle around your house, pout, and moan, and acknowledge the massive resistance you may feel about doing it as you’re doing it anyway.
Wash one piece of silverware or put away one dish from the dishwasher as you acknowledge any heaviness or blah blah woof woof going on in your thoughts.
Write one piece of content or one social media post, or one sentence of your book.
Open one bill and pay one dollar. Create one line on a budget. Remove one phrase from your language. For example, my Dad loved saying he was too broke to pay attention, which is funny and also not a match to wealth, so I won’t repeat that one anymore.
“I have to exercise” can become I can get to exercise - that one was popular for a while, but an even deeper layer is I deserve to exercise.
“I have to write an email sequence” becomes you deserve to write an email sequence because you love how much you’ve learned, and your words deserve to be out in the world.
“I have to make a budget” becomes I love me so much that I’m willing to move through the angst of making a budget because I deserve to feel good when I look at my numbers.
You deserve financial safety and security.
You deserve all the good things and then some.
If no one loved you enough to provide a safe money space and teach you all the things, then you can love yourself enough to do it now.
XO,
LMW